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Scene Negotiation

An empty scene-negotiation form, ready to fill in by hand at a munch, event, or any time the digital form isn't practical. Discuss each section and tick / write as you go.

Scene label:                                                   
Date:                                                   

Roles & scene type

Top (name / handle):                                                   
Bottom (name / handle):                                                   
Scene type:                                                   
Switching allowed mid-scene: ☐ Yes   ☐ No

Activities

Tick the activities in scope for this scene.

Place & time

Location:                                                   
Who ensures privacy?:                                                   
Begin at:                                                   
Length:                                                   
Beginning signal:                                                   
Ending signal:                                                   
Who keeps track of time?:                                                   

Limits

Hard limits (non-negotiable):
Soft limits (under what conditions):
Preferences (what you'd like, within range):

Safewords

Traffic-light system (red / yellow / green): ☐ Yes   ☐ No
Two-squeezes nonverbal check-in: ☐ Yes   ☐ No
Safeword 1 / Meaning:                                                   
Safeword 2 / Meaning:                                                   
Non-verbal signals & their meaning:

Health & medical

Current conditions (cardiac, lungs, joints, neuro, etc.):
Medications & intoxicants in the last 24h:
Allergies & sensitivities:
In an emergency, contact:                                                   
Phobias / known triggers:

Scene safety

Top is current on First Aid / CPR: ☐ Yes   ☐ No
Paramedic scissors on hand: ☐ Yes   ☐ No
First aid kit on hand: ☐ Yes   ☐ No
Fire extinguisher on hand: ☐ Yes   ☐ No
Flashlight on hand: ☐ Yes   ☐ No
Play takes place in an isolated location: ☐ Yes   ☐ No
If isolated: how is bottom's safety ensured if top loses consciousness?:

Marks

Marks are acceptable: ☐ Yes   ☐ No
OK when not visible under street clothes: ☐ Yes   ☐ No
OK when not visible in swimwear: ☐ Yes   ☐ No
Drawing small amounts of blood is OK: ☐ Yes   ☐ No
Marks notes:

Aftercare

Aftercare gets negotiated before you need it. Pick what you typically want.

Aftercare notes (timing, specifics):

Follow-up

Coming-down period right after: ☐ Yes   ☐ No
Next-day check-in: ☐ Yes   ☐ No
Week-later follow-up: ☐ Yes   ☐ No
Crisis protocol (who to call if it goes badly):
Quick Exit