We keep this short because we mean every word of it.
The Five We Don't Bend On
1. Consent is the floor, not the ceiling.
Every scene, every touch, every interaction. Negotiated, enthusiastic, ongoing, and revocable at any moment by anyone. "No" is a complete sentence. So is silence, hesitation, or a safeword. Reading consent is a skill, and we expect you to keep getting better at it.
2. What happens here, stays here.
Names, faces, scenes, kinks, identities, who was with whom — none of it leaves this community. No photos without explicit permission. No outing, ever. Discretion isn't a courtesy here; it's a requirement.
3. No yucking anyone's yum.
Someone's kink isn't your punchline. If it's not for you, walk away. We are a community of wildly different desires sharing one roof, and that only works if we keep our judgment to ourselves.
4. No bigotry. No discrimination. No exceptions.
Racism, transphobia, homophobia, fatphobia, ableism, antisemitism, religious bigotry, slut-shaming — none of it lives here. Not in scenes, not in "jokes," not in whispered side comments. One warning, then you're out. Sometimes no warning.
5. Safety isn't optional.
Know your tools. Know your limits. Know your partner's limits. Negotiate before, check in during, aftercare after. If you're new to an activity, take the class or find a mentor before you try it on someone. Zero drinks until play is finished for the night — substances and consent don't mix.
How We Treat Each Other
- Ask before you touch. Anyone. Anywhere. Every time.
- Take "no" gracefully. A rejection isn't a wound. Respond like an adult and move on.
- Watch the scene, don't crowd it. Give space. Don't interrupt. Don't approach players mid-scene.
- Dungeon Monitors have final say. If a DM stops a scene or asks you to step out, you comply, then talk later.
- Clean up after yourself. Equipment, fluids, glassware, emotions. Leave the space better than you found it.
How You Earn Your Way In
Participation is the path. That looks like:
- Posting and engaging on the community forum
- Completing the free online classes
- Passing the quizzes on consent, negotiation, and safety
- Showing up at public events — munches, wet munches, lunches, dinners
- Volunteering when you can — setup, cleanup, teaching, cooking, hosting
You're not auditioning. You're becoming part of something. We notice.
When Something Goes Wrong
At an event: tell a DM, an organizer, or any volunteer in a vest. Any time, including later: file a report through our structured form, or email
The Spirit of the Thing
We're trying to build the place we all wished existed — small enough to know each other's names, serious enough to be safe, warm enough to be home, sharp enough to be exciting. That takes everyone. Welcome aboard.